A Challenge

“…and moths have eaten your clothes.” – James 5:2

When I first moved to Charlotte, one of my co-workers and I had a conversation about what church he went to and other churches in the Charlotte area. A few days later, I decided to listen to one of the sermons online in the background while I was working. Very early on in the sermon, part of a verse in James hit me hard. “…and moths have eaten your clothes.” The pastor went on to say that while our brothers and sisters have no clothes to wear, we have so much in our closet that the moths are eating it because we do not have the opportunity to wear it all.

This hit hard. My closet is jam packed, my drawers barely close, my laundry basket is constantly over flowing. I can “lose” items of clothing and have no idea that they are missing. There are people in my city, who “lose” an item of clothing and then have to hide in shame because they aren’t wearing anything.

A friend of mine had been toying with the idea of not buying clothes, shoes or accessories for an entire year. I encouraged her to go through with it, but wanted a way to come alongside of her during the year. As someone who’s shopping addiction used to be out of control but has since been tamed, I knew that giving up shopping for a year isn’t what I needed to do. It was quickly very evident that what I needed to do, over the next year, was to get rid of half of my wardrobe and donate it to an organization in Charlotte that will give to it women who need it. Maybe someone who will be working their first professional job and needs business attire. Maybe someone who left an abusive situation with just the clothes off her back. Maybe someone who lost everything. Maybe someone who is struggling to see herself as beautiful, but can put on a dress that was just hanging in my closet, and will feel beautiful for the first time in a long time.

I’m posting this not as a look at me, but a hey, help hold me accountable. Yes, there will be things that will be very easy to give away. But then there will be things that I want to keep, even though I have 17 of the same thing. There will be times, when I forget my heart behind what I am doing and get prideful. There will be times when I want to give up and just keep everything. I think the first fourth will be easy to rid myself of. But then it will come down to items of clothing that I want, but do not need. There was a time in my life, when football season was approaching, so I would go buy 6-7 new garnet and black dresses and tops. I see now that it was excessive, but that also means there are a lot of garnet and black dresses in my closest with only 6-7 Saturday’s in the fall to wear them. Yes, I wear them on other occasions too, but still there is excess. I also want to keep my shopping in check. When I do go shopping, for however many items I bring home, I will get rid of that number from my wardrobe.

The moths are coming and I would much rather someone in need wear the clothes I do not wear, than have the moths eat them.

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Five on Friday

We made it to Friday! Hope you are as glad it’s Friday as I am. Come on 5:00!

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-ONE-

I was scrolling through Facebook one day and saw a post from a friend who signed up on a blog to send joy. Basically, you send your address and then you get sent an address of someone to send a fun little package to. Envelope come from Dollar Section at Target FYI. It was so fun shopping around Target to send things to someone to bring them joy. I’m so excited to get my package!

I did this once on another blog during Christmas and it got me thinking that I would love to co-host a gift exchange this December. If you have any interest in co-hosting with me or want more info, send me an email carolinalifestyle2 {at} gmail {dot} com

 

 

-TWO-  

So while I was at Target for my #sendjoy and “You had a bad week and live halfway across the country” care package, I found these and I am oh so glad that I did. It’s been a stressful week at work, so I have eaten them all. I think the sea salt is my favorite part. It’s sweet and salty and then the extra sea salt salty. Y’all go find these and eat the whole bag 🙂

-THREE-

So I’ve had some rough couple of years with pumpkins. Carving is just a pain in the rear end. Last year I tried painting, which in theory was a great idea. #hatedit like it was bad. There was pouting involved. So I told my roommate that pumpkins were not happening this year. Pumpkins are her favorite. I was scrolling through Instagram this week (way past bedtime as you can tell by the time) and found these. I decided that I wanted to glitter a pumpkin this year. TBD how it will go. If it does goes well, a tutorial will be posted. If not, I’ll let you know that too.

  

-FOUR-

Balance is hard. I’m wearing a lot of hats right now and another one gets thrown into the mix next week. I need to learn what rest is and boundaries for time that the computer/iPad/iPhone go away.

Also, snapchat is adding weird new features.

-FIVE-

It was a dream come true to see half of Hootie and the Blowfish on the Horseshoe this week. I’ve always wanted to see them where they got their start, my alma mater. And this week I did. Jamming out to Hootie was such a treat. Thank you Darius and Mark for a great show and for making dreams come true.

What are you most excited for this weekend?

xoxo ashley

Five on Friday

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My sting is so much better from last week and I’ve hopefully killed the nest. I sprayed about half a bottle of Raid on the nest but haven’t really gone back to check.

-ONE-

My mom posted this throwback on Facebook this week, thought it was too cute not to share.

 

-TWO-

Although I hated the circumstances (#cancersucks) as to why I got to see this little one, I enjoyed the little time I got to spend with this little one.

 

-THREE-

This one is self explanatory. But if you need a good credit card company, Chase is great. I got a text message from them about some potential fraudulent charges and then emails. One phone call later, all charges were marked fraud, card was cancelled and new card is on the way. Still annoying and inconvenient, but less since they caught it and I’m not responsible for any of the chargers.

-FOUR- 

Sunday mornings really are a blessing. I love getting to spend time with the kiddos at church. 

-FIVE-

My sweet friend Liz got engaged this week and we hid in her room with cake waiting for her to get home!  

xoxo

April Fools

I’m not big into April Fools. As a kid, we would play jokes on each other and family, but nothing too big.

Like most girls during the late 90’s/early 2000’s phase were obsessed with none other than Avril Lavigne. Growing up, there was no shortage of concerts. My love of concerts started at a young age from my parents. NYSNC, Britney Spears, Aaron Carter, just to name a few. So one April Fools, my parents decided to tell me that they got me tickets to Avril’s show. I knew it was April Fools, so I didn’t believe them, but then they told me to look online and see that she really was coming to Virginia Beach. Once I knew that tidbit of info, I was a little more sold, but then nope, I should have trusted my original instinct.

Hope you didn’t get fooled too bad today and I’m going to leave you with one of the best:

xoxo ashley

Sick Days

Sick days in adulthood looks like your tissues, Gatorade and throat drops mixed in with your task list on your desk at work instead of all on your nightstand while you are binge watching Netflix or catching up on the DVR.   

Here’s to hoping tomorrow I wake up feeling refreshed and 100% back to myself. NyQuil, do your thing. 

xoxo